It’s the start of a new school year for millions of children. Many children have started school; entering Kindergarten or Prep (depending on the Australian State you’re in).
Jodi Wilson wrote on the ABC website about the “hardest year of motherhood”. It was Wilson’s youngest child’s first day at school. She didn’t expect the transition to have such an emotional impact.
I held it all together for him [hercyoungest son] — ushered him through tired afternoons and big emotions — but it took me months to accept that I needed a similar kind of care, too.
(‘The transition to school was harder on me than my kids’, ABC, Jodi Wilson 29 January 2025)
Perfectionism and the pressures parents face
Parents stress about what schools expect from them. Wilson pointed out the pressure parents face to volunteer at their child’s/ children’s school.
Then there’s responsibilities that children and parents face throughout the year. Signing permission notes, returning library books, etc. Of course, perfection doesn’t exist. Things happen: children lose library books, etc. Children waste time and are late to school. Heck, parents often struggle to get their children out of bed!
Another pressure Wilson brings up is volunteering. Often, parents are encouraged to volunteer for numerous school roles: canteen, reading, sports carnivals, fundraisers, you name it. But so many parents are so busy, they probably don’t have time to volunteer in every event.
Of course, there are always events that parents want to attend to support their children. I think it’s important for parents and friends outside the school to support students in their events (carnivals, Drama performances, etc). Unfortunately, it isn’t always possible.
Parents need to be supported by schools as much as parents should support teachers. Everyone needs to be able to lighten their load and not feel obligated for every little thing!
Tips for parents of school – aged children
Luckily, there is help and tips for parents. According to Parents Victoria:
- Parents should have a mutual agreement with the school on communication method/s
- Parents should inform the school of their child/ren’s needs, and be realistic in their rxpectations
- Have agreed pick up/ drop off points
- Parents should inform teachers if their child/ren has mental health concerns (i.e if the children are prone to anxiety)
- Parents should familarise themselves with the school layout and transport pick – up/ dropp off points.
- It’s important that parents get to know and build a respectful relationships with their children’s teachers and Head Teachers
- If a child is starting a new school, parents should brainstorm with conversation starters with their child to give them more confidence.
- If parents are unable to get the school items they need, there is no shame in asking for help
By the time this post is published, students have already started school for 2025. I wish all students and parents the the best. May you be able to be relax a little and enjoy the school year.